Romance Makeover

A Passionate Tango for Two

Where Did the Spark Go?

When you first met each other I am sure it was incredible. There was no need to read the Kama Sutra. You were writing it. Notes, poems, weekend trips and creativity in all forms flowed effortlessly. She waited for you at the airport each time you returned from business travel and you worshipped the ground she walked on. The problems of the world were secondary. When you simply looked into each other’s eyes life was transformed into a thing of beauty, passion and an infinite list of dreams, aspirations and possibilities. You had it all. It could never end. You promised each other never to become like your parents or other couples whose boring, predictable relationships you despised. Being in love was pure bliss.

Wow! Ten years later, where did the spark go? The passionate flame has evaporated into the feeble spark of a Bic lighter that has run out of fuel. She has not met you at the airport for five years and you probably can’t tell me the last time you did anything creative for the relationship. The bed of the love nest is covered in laundry that needs to be folded and clutter is everywhere. She would change if you would change and vice versa. Well meaning friends and therapists have helped you create a long list of excuses that help to rationalize this pathetic relationship rut.

• You can’t expect anything to be like you had at the beginning of the relationship.
• Over time all couples fall into the rut. Just wait and the relationship will ebb and flow.
• Have a date night each week – this will solve the problem.
• Become a better listener – your spouse will quickly change.
• Wanting excitement in your relationship is not realistic. You are over 40.
• Just accept what you have and be grateful.
• You can’t change it. If you don’t like it – get divorced.
• Don’t be a dreamer. All relationships have different phases.
• If you are over 40, no one wants to see your take off your clothes.
• Monotony is better than divorce.

To all of this I say total and absolute NONSENSE. I have been to marriage counseling, divorce counseling, men’s crying groups, men’s drumming groups, men’s whining groups and family counseling and received minimal value. My presentations are about what your therapists and friends never bothered to tell you. The bad news is that YOU are the problem. The good news is YOU can be the catalyst to create the world’s most powerful, wonderful and beautiful tango in life. I am not a therapist. I am a motivational speaker and my goal is to get you up off your complacent butt as I had to do and start to make things happen. Stop waiting for your spouse to change. As Gandhi said, you need to be the change in the world if you want it to happen. If 90 days from now your significant other has not noticed that you have become more creative, passionate, hotter, thinner, better dressed, better looking, more attentive, and just downright romantic, sensual and caring then we have a different problem. As a last resort you can always go to nolopress.com and order “How to Do Your Own Divorce.” I can say though with 99% certainty that by day 60 both of you will again be too hot to handle and the divorce manual will not be necessary.

You can book Randy Ross to speak at your next event. His presentation is guaranteed to wake up your audience and get them thinking. Write to rross@globalspeakerforce.com or call 530.346.7613